My mother went to the dr....?

stop worrying your mother and yourself. stress does no good to both. i have an enlarged heart and valve damage. that is because i am fat, although i am losing weight (from 371 down to 242 lbs). the heart has to work doubly hard because of the weight. yes, she should lose weight. my understanding is that heart problems are heredity. my father and my mother died from heart failure. so, if you guys lose the weight in a healthy manner, you might be okay. you both got to take care of yourselves. and go see a doctor for his professional advice. go to a nutritionist for help. but stop driving yourself and her crazy. that will not help her heart condition. get educated. good luck.